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Title: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Gezausenu on April 27, 2018, 08:23:17 pm
Em hotep, friends.

So after a year and a half of trying to slog it out and probably doing myself more harm than good, something happened today regarding work which was just the final straw for me. (In and of itself it would have been more annoying than anything, but coming at the trailing end of everything this company's done to me and the suspicious timing of my having told my boss something about my mental health earlier this week in an attempt to, you know, actually feel safe at work . . . welp. I was livid.)

And then, finally like a Sekhmet kid, I realized I should, uh, do something. At the very least do the best I can to ensure that my employer is held accountable for their actions. Even if I end up quitting--I don't want a graceful exit.

Today, after being completely called off of work for no warranted reason ("rain" that didn't come until five o' clock this evening, among other things that don't make sense), I decided to take the first steps in filing a claim with the EEOC against my employer. I've filled out most of the online forms, including the secondary ones, scheduled an in-person get-together with an EEOC representative (which is just to determine if there's even a case) and asked a few (former) coworkers if they'd be on board to support my claims of the umpteen number of ways HR's screwed me over in regards to (not) accommodating my visual disability (including denying me promotion in a very passive-aggressive way), (not) working to even understand what clinically documented chronic PTSD can mean for me under X conditions (so let's fix X conditions, please?), and being trans (to quote the head of HR: "Why should you get to be special and break the rules [regarding HR's own self-imposed-but-then-rescinded method of self-identifying with pins, of all things]? Everyone identifies as something and [in response to the notion of gender dysphoria I'd brought up; unedited quote] everyone has a mental problem of some sort."

Blah blah blah.

The EEOC folks might well say that I have no case. Or maybe the company fires back with whatever choice stuff they have which I can't argue against. Who knows? But at least it's something. I don't even know what the end result would be. I'll still work there, until I can find something else, because Insurance and A Paycheck (Two bits!) . . . but I don't want to be silent anymore.

Prayers that ma'at prevails would be deeply appreciated. <3

Thank you all, friends.

Senebty,
Gezausenu.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Tawa'ubastmut on April 27, 2018, 08:31:02 pm
Prayers. May ma'at prevail!
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Heruakhetymose on April 27, 2018, 08:32:13 pm
Em hotep, Gezausenu!

I’m sorry to hear things became so crappy there and just kept up. >.<

Prayers for Ma’at to prevail!

Senebty,
Mose
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Anaputuwet on April 27, 2018, 08:45:01 pm
I'm really proud of you for standing up for yourself and taking action! Gods know we all need to do a little more of that.

May Ma'at prevail! And may you get a much better job, as well. :)
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Subani on April 27, 2018, 08:49:01 pm
Good luck! I hope everything turns out well.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Sedjfaiemitui on April 27, 2018, 09:58:35 pm
Prayers to our Father Set, to your Mother Sekhmet, to Sobek, and to Babi that you get the recompense you deserve <3 -- and that your current employer gets their freaking act together, one way or the other.

Much love to you. <3 I'm rooting for you, Gezausenu!
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Tatuayinepu on April 27, 2018, 11:27:30 pm
Em hotep, friends.

So after a year and a half of trying to slog it out and probably doing myself more harm than good, something happened today regarding work which was just the final straw for me. (In and of itself it would have been more annoying than anything, but coming at the trailing end of everything this company's done to me and the suspicious timing of my having told my boss something about my mental health earlier this week in an attempt to, you know, actually feel safe at work . . . welp. I was livid.)

And then, finally like a Sekhmet kid, I realized I should, uh, do something. At the very least do the best I can to ensure that my employer is held accountable for their actions. Even if I end up quitting--I don't want a graceful exit.

Today, after being completely called off of work for no warranted reason ("rain" that didn't come until five o' clock this evening, among other things that don't make sense), I decided to take the first steps in filing a claim with the EEOC against my employer. I've filled out most of the online forms, including the secondary ones, scheduled an in-person get-together with an EEOC representative (which is just to determine if there's even a case) and asked a few (former) coworkers if they'd be on board to support my claims of the umpteen number of ways HR's screwed me over in regards to (not) accommodating my visual disability (including denying me promotion in a very passive-aggressive way), (not) working to even understand what clinically documented chronic PTSD can mean for me under X conditions (so let's fix X conditions, please?), and being trans (to quote the head of HR: "Why should you get to be special and break the rules [regarding HR's own self-imposed-but-then-rescinded method of self-identifying with pins, of all things]? Everyone identifies as something and [in response to the notion of gender dysphoria I'd brought up; unedited quote] everyone has a mental problem of some sort."

Blah blah blah.

The EEOC folks might well say that I have no case. Or maybe the company fires back with whatever choice stuff they have which I can't argue against. Who knows? But at least it's something. I don't even know what the end result would be. I'll still work there, until I can find something else, because Insurance and A Paycheck (Two bits!) . . . but I don't want to be silent anymore.

Prayers that ma'at prevails would be deeply appreciated. <3

Thank you all, friends.

Senebty,
Gezausenu.

Prayers that Ma'at prevails above all. I have you in my daily prayers with Yinepu that an avenue will open up for you to see the environment improve and that you're treated fairly. 

I will also speak with Heru Sa Aset and Sekhmet on your behalf, that your employer will be held accountable for its lousy treatment of you.

*offers hugs* Good on you for standing up and not being silent in the face of abuse. It is a very hard thing to do.

Remember, you are not alone.

Tatuayinepu
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Pairysenu on April 27, 2018, 11:31:53 pm
Prayers, Gezausenu. May ma'at prevail and may our Parents aid you in getting through this. That's a hard situation and I hope you can successfully help bring about your desired positive changes!

Your twin/triplet always,

~Pairysenu
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Ra'awyserqet on April 27, 2018, 11:55:19 pm
Prayers
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Sarytsenuwi on April 28, 2018, 07:04:40 am
Prayers for you Gezausenu. May Ma'at prevail. I will certainly give offerings to both Set and Bast on your behalf, that justice is done here. I'm so sorry it's been so hard for so long.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Tjemsy on April 28, 2018, 07:36:57 am
I'm sorry to hear your job has kept being sucky, twin. You deserve better.

Kick their butts. May Ma'at prevail. :D <3
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Senuwierneheh on April 28, 2018, 09:00:00 am
Prayers that Ma'at prevails, Gezausenu!  May Set give you strength and Ptah aid with calm clarity during all of this!

Senebty,
Neheh...
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Djedetmiwesir on April 28, 2018, 10:25:50 am
Prayers that Ma'at prevails!
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Awibemhethert on April 28, 2018, 11:48:52 am
Much love and support. May Ma'at prevail!

Ibi
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Seta on April 28, 2018, 06:32:17 pm
May Ma'at prevail, also a better job in the line up. 😊
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Sehedjef on April 28, 2018, 06:52:01 pm
Prayers that everything turn out in your favor.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Darytessekhmet on April 28, 2018, 06:59:29 pm
I'm praying for you Gezausenu.  May Ma'at prevail.  *hugs*
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Gezausenu on April 28, 2018, 08:16:50 pm
Em hotep friends.

Oh, goodness! I feel so loved and protected. <3 Thank you all.

I kept hoping this situation would get better. I talked to HR more than once. I talked to my bosses more than once (the particular cafe I work at has had 7 managers in the last 3 years, what does that say?!). I talked to my coworkers more than once, and as gently as I could, explaining as much as I could without divulging personal details which are nobody's business. People rolled their eyes and brushed me off. People quoted the employee handbook. People got angry with me and stopped talking to me for short periods of time. People claimed that they understood and yet just kept on doing what they were doing.

In short, nobody's heard me.

And apart from affecting my mental and physical health, it's having a direct impact on my job performance--which will get me fired, if nothing else.

To quote Hillel: "If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am not for others, what am I? And if not now, when?"

Enough's enough. For me and for anyone else who might ever run into these issues with this company.

Thank you all for your good thoughts and prayers and the wonderful, powerful Names you've mentioned. <3 I deeply, deeply appreciate it.

Senebty, and much love,
Gezausenu.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Tanisiaset on April 28, 2018, 09:07:08 pm
Many, many, many prayers to you, friend! May your voice be heard and may Ma'at prevail! <3

Much love and many hugs,

- Tanisi
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: makaroth on April 28, 2018, 11:24:57 pm
I just want to echo the support that's been offered here and I truly wish you the best.  I will have you in my prayers.  It's a powerful thing to stand up to the unjust and powerful and you're doing good not only for yourself but for others by this action.  So thank you, and may Ma'at be present with you <3
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Meresinepu on April 29, 2018, 01:30:21 am
 Gezausenu

Keeping you in my prayers.  I'm in a similar situation with employers (State of AZ).  I've tried to work it out with HR and everyone else in between but they didn't listen.  I'm looking for a new job and as soon as I find one I will be going to the EEOC and filing a complaint myself.

May Ma'at prevail for your situation. 

Meres
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Ushedimuti on May 01, 2018, 05:32:58 pm
Prayers, sib. May Mama Sekhmet and Set guide you, may Ptah give you calm and peace, may Djehuty give you the right words to speak, and may Mafdet protect you. In all, may Ma'at prevail.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Yinepuemsaes on May 01, 2018, 09:15:03 pm
Praying for you.  I wish I could do more to help.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Shediwi-Itw on May 02, 2018, 08:13:11 am
Prayers that Ma’at prevails!
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Sobeqsenu on May 02, 2018, 09:06:07 am
May Sekhmet be with you and may Ma'at prevail!
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Gezausenu on May 02, 2018, 09:18:01 am
Em hotep, friends.

Thank you all for the love and support. <3

Quick update: I got written up this weekend for my drawer being off at the end of the day (which I knew was bound to happen). Normally I'd chalk that up to making a mistake and just sign the form and be done with it, but I got to thinking about the numerous times I've asked for accommodations (such that good communication is) and no one's heard me. I got to thinking about the repercussions this has on my mental and physical health; one should not have to grind through a shift-long panic attack because their coworkers don't seem to understand or care about their needs and neither does their boss. At the end of the day, my drawer being off wasn't just on me: it was a direct effect of their inability to comply with what I need.

So I refused to sign, citing that both of my disabilities are covered under the ADA and that "reasonable accommodations" are a legal right. My rather apathetic boss perked right up at that and said "Oh, yeah, I totally agree! What you're asking is totally reasonable!" He said he'd talk to HR; I got an e-mail from the head of HR (the nasty pin lady) later that day and she said "I'm sorry to hear that your reasonable accommodations aren't being met! What can we do to help?"

I e-mailed with her briefly, outlining what's going on, and supposedly she's going to call me to talk, although it's been two days . . . we'll see how that goes.

Update #2: Just talked to her! She said--in a very argumentative, defensive tone: "Well, technically the transaction error is still that, regardless of the circumstances. And anyway, you're special to us, but we've been making all sorts of reasonable accommodations to your position; we've done everything you've requested of us [which isn't entirely true, and the requests weren't extreme or taxing to the company]. There's only so much we can do. It's not reasonable to ask 20 people on staff to have one coworker in mind when they're moving about the cafe. What do you expect me to do if there's someone who just doesn't tell you where they are? Terminate their employment? . . . Well, give me a therapist's note and I'll see what we can do about talking to everyone in  a very broad, safety-related way."

. . . Can I cry "[censored]"? I'm honestly speechless and just . . . Speechless! Shocked! I expected it but still--yikes!

Anyway . . . thank you all, again, for your love and support. <3 It's greatly appreciated.

And Rev. Meresinepu, I'll be keeping you in my prayers as well. <3

Senebty,
Gezausenu.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Gezausenu on May 13, 2018, 08:03:00 pm
Em hotep, friends.

Just wanted to bump this to add that on Thursday I had a meeting with the head of HR and the COO of the company. After an hour and a half, it became clear that there was nothing they could (or were willing) to do for me. I put in my two weeks' notice, without another job lined up, for the sake of my mental and physical health, both of which were / still are really starting to slip beyond my ability to cope with.

I'm still going to meet with the EEOC, even though the head of HR, two days after our disastrous phone conversation--about a week before the meeting--slung ADA paperwork at me for no apparent reason.

Thank you all for your kindness and support. We'll see what the future brings. Hopefully it's good.

<3
Senebty,
Gezausenu.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Senuwierneheh on May 14, 2018, 08:01:04 am
So many prayers for you, Gezausenu!

May Ma'at prevail, and may you get a job in which you'll be happy.

Senebty,
Neheh...
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Arienihethert on May 14, 2018, 11:22:31 am
Praying. <3
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Awibemhethert on May 16, 2018, 01:57:26 pm
Many prayers.


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Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Ushedimuti on May 18, 2018, 08:05:51 pm
Prayers, Gezausenu. I'm sorry it came to this, but glad you're getting out of that toxic environment. May your Parents walk beside you every step of the way, and may Ma'at prevail.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Sehedjef on May 19, 2018, 04:05:45 pm
Prayers that you are able to find a new job quickly.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Meresinepu on May 19, 2018, 10:07:42 pm
Prayers for you most definitely.  As I mentioned a few months back ..I did speak up and called management on their lies, passing me over as well for a job that was promised to me and then taken away at the last minute.

My probation is over and I managed to keep the job but I had to work my you know what to get it all done.  I'm also looking for a new job and as soon as I'm out of there I will be filing my complaint against the State with EEOC.  If I file while I work there I will be terminated and I've already been retaliated against so many times.

Like you, I can no longer be silent.  I will make sure that everyone knows what crappy supervisor and manager we have in our current unit.  You will remain in my thoughts and prayers.  May Ma'at prevail for all of us in this type of situation.

Hang in there.

Senebty

Meres
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Gezausenu on May 20, 2018, 06:09:15 am
Em hotep, friends,

Thank you all. <3 No new job yet, but one will come.

Rev. Meres, I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. :( And especially that you feel like you'd be fired for speaking to the EEOC--I'd definitely mention that to them! According to their website, it's illegal for an employer to fire someone for talking to the EEOC / filing a claim.

You're in my prayers, friend!!

Senebty,
Gezausenu.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Subani on June 28, 2018, 09:24:06 am
Prayers again for you, G. Thinking of you
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Gezausenu on June 28, 2018, 01:25:07 pm
Em hotep, Subani! (Gorgeous name, by the way! <3 I'm so happy for you!!)

Thank you for the continued prayers. I think I have another job lined up (it's just a matter of getting in to complete the paperwork and then getting on the schedule once the manager returns from vacation), so nekhtet for that! I'm looking forward to my meeting with the EEOC here in a few weeks. ;) Coincidentally it falls the day before the anniversary of my RPD, which amuses me.

Senebty,
Gezausenu.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Tatuayinepu on July 01, 2018, 11:44:44 pm
Nekhtet on both the job prospect and the EEOC meeting!

Tatuayinepu
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Shezatwepwawet on July 02, 2018, 06:41:40 am
I missed this originally, but prayers for you Gezausenu. Luck on the job and may ma'at prevail.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Senuwierneheh on July 02, 2018, 08:34:02 am
I missed this too!  I'm glad to hear of progress, Gezausenu!
Continued prayers for you!

Senebty,
Neheh...
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Gezausenu on July 17, 2018, 02:19:29 pm
Em hotep, friends.

Just wanted to give you a wee update. This morning I met with a representative of the EEOC and, after reviewing the statement they sent to me, officially filed a claim of discrimination against my previous employers.

They'll be served the claim, and then have 30-60 days to respond. There will be an investigation to determine if discrimination actually occurred, at which point mediation is an option if we both agree to it. If we can't come to a resolution or one of us doesn't want to do that, there will be another investigation and the case will go to court.

I don't know if anything will come out of this. But . . . it's the last month of the year of Mama Sekhmet and Ma'at. If not now, when?

Thank you all for your prayers, good wishes and support. <3

Senebty,
Gezausenu.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Djehutyendy on July 17, 2018, 03:21:39 pm
Continued prayers for you, Gezausenu. This sounds like good news <3

Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Sehedjef on July 21, 2018, 05:12:23 pm
Continued prayers and may Ma'at watch over the proceedings, so that something like this isn't ignored or repeated.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Meresinepu on July 22, 2018, 12:58:55 am
Keeping you in my prayers for a good resolution to the EEOC complaint.  May Sekhmet and Set be watching over you :)

Meres
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Gezausenu on July 22, 2018, 08:43:34 am
Em hotep, friends!

Thank you so much for the wonderful prayers and good thoughts. <3

On the bittersweet side of things, I lost my new job yesterday. It's for the best, I think, but . . . ouch.

Back to the drawing board. O.o

Senebty,
Gezausenu.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Senuwierneheh on July 22, 2018, 09:27:04 am
Continued prayers for you, Gezausenu!  May Wepwawet open new doors of employment for you.

Senebty,
Neheh...
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Subani on July 22, 2018, 09:40:30 am
Oh no G! Im sorry to hear that. Many prayers.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Yinepuemsaes on July 22, 2018, 05:38:05 pm
Prayers...
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Sarytsenuwi on July 29, 2018, 01:42:28 pm
Continued prayers, Gezausenu.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Gezausenu on August 26, 2018, 04:06:57 pm
Em hotep, dear friends!

I have happy news: right after Retreat I was officially hired by the university's LGBT+ Resource Center; the director had mentioned that she wants me to be on the education side of things--so I get to go talk to classrooms about Stuff And Things! Nekhtet! (I'm still hoping to get an assistantship of some kind, which will pay much better, but . . . working at the LGBTRC not only leads in well to what I hope to do with my professional career but, as a result, looks happy on my resume. ^_^ So for now that's the game plan!)

I also called up someone at the larger LGBT Community Center and asked if she had any thoughts on insurance and hormones, since COBRA is killing me and the Marketplace plans aren't any better. She suggested that I try applying for state insurance and see what answer I get; if I'm denied, then she said to call her back and we'll think of something else.

And now the bad news: my former employer has refused mediation, which means that the only way to settle this is to go to court. The EEOC only accepts 2% of the cases it receives to represent in court itself; otherwise they'd issue me a Right to Sue letter and basically pat me on the head and tell me to deal with it myself. I found a directory of lawyers who specialize in employment discrimination; I'm hoping to at the very least have a consultation to see if there's enough on my side to make it worth going to court, if not find someone who's willing to do pro bono work (although how I ask about that, I have absolutely no idea).

I just don't want them to get off the hook. I don't understand why they didn't accept mediation--which in the long run would save them a ton of time and money--unless they think I'm bluffing. And Gods I don't want to give them that satisfaction . . . but I also don't know if it's worth going to court.

*sigh*

But! Grad school! Happy job! I'm triple-counting my blessings, haha. <3

Senebty, and thank you all for listening to me ramble so much about my woes. <3
Gezausenu.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Djehutyendy on August 26, 2018, 04:54:08 pm
Nekhtet!!! I'm so happy to hear you got this job. It sounds like a great position :)

But I am sorry to hear your employer refused mediation. Prayers that ma'at will prevail <3

Senebty,
Endy
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Senuwierneheh on August 26, 2018, 05:30:57 pm
I'm so happy for your blessings, Gezausenu.

I'll continue to pray for a successful resolution with the former employee, and good luck with the state insurance.

Senebty, <3
Neheh....
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Lita45 on August 26, 2018, 06:10:31 pm
Nekhtet Gezausenu!
That is great news! Much Success and Luck in your new job!
Dua Divine Set and Divine Sekhmet
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Subani on August 26, 2018, 07:40:10 pm
Good luck with your new job! Good luck with everything.
Title: Re: Doing a Mama Sekhmet Thing
Post by: Hakenensenu on August 26, 2018, 08:16:11 pm
Em Hotep friend!

Nekhtet on the decision! that's hard!
May a new job come swiftly, may the Truth come forward; may Ma'at prevail, Dua Sekhmet, Dua Set.

Senebty,
Your friend, Hakenensenu!