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Prayers for end a Family fight
« on: June 19, 2014, 06:48:53 am »
Hello everyone,
I hope you can pray for me and my family and perhabs give me some tipps for solve the problem.

In my famlily I´m the freak, because all things I say or I interested in are "not normal". It started with the problem that I have depressions until my religion. I can nothing do for accepting me without lying and/or stopping talk.

Last weekend is a good example.
I was by my family and tryed to talk about my decision to be Kemetic Orthodox with my Mum. Suddenly my stepfather came into the room and my Mum switched totally. Later we had a fight because I have to shut up with "these themes" when he is in the room. By the way he is a totaly realistic man, from the german army (Deutscher Bund) and can not understand many things.
But my Mum sayed to me:
" I will that he has a good view at you, also be normal ok?"

But I see it at the piont that my family had to accept me so as I´m, I will not play theater for them.

So what do you think? Is she right, and I have to shut up for the (false) peace? Or what would you do?
I hope I find a way, because the only way I can see now is not visit her, and that hurts.

In hope with greetings
Neferu
« Last Edit: June 19, 2014, 06:50:29 am by Neferu »
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Offline Raheri

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Re: Prayers for end a Family fight
« Reply #1 on: June 19, 2014, 08:12:15 am »
Praying.
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"O my heart which I had from my mother,
Do not rise up agianst me as a witness in the presence of the Lord of Things;
Do not bring up anything agianst me in the presence of the Great God, Lord of the West."

Offline Qefathethert

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Re: Prayers for end a Family fight
« Reply #2 on: June 19, 2014, 03:14:40 pm »
I pray that your family becomes more accepting of your differences - but sometimes, it is better to just avoid the subject. You don't have to lie, just not speak of the touchy subject.
Sat Hethert-Sekhmet, meryt Bast-Mut her Set.
Devoted to Khonsu

Offline Vaalea

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Re: Prayers for end a Family fight
« Reply #3 on: June 20, 2014, 10:00:11 am »
Praying for you.

Honestly, there is hardly a possibility that you'd be wrong in *everything* you do, let alone 'a freak'. The problem here seems to be *them*, just being toxic and abusive people.

Abusers will always find something to abuse 'for', but that is the way they treat people, that's not something you do wrong, or have ever done wrong.

And don't 'shut up' for someone else's peace, but please, mind your safety, especially if you're still dependent on them financially or for immediate physical security like housing some days and the like; *your safety comes first* and sometimes the best defense one can have, is simply surviving and being well, as well as situation allows, 'building a thick skin', keeping own value and being proud of what you do regardless of what they say.

Basically, you don't owe anyone explanations or excuses for being the way you are, and respect is always supposed to be both sided.
Vaalea, Shemsu em Kemet.
Sa Wepwawet-Ra her Bast, KO Sa Serqet.
Friend to Khepera and Sobek-Ra.

Tarot reader for Wepwawet & Serqet.

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Re: Prayers for end a Family fight
« Reply #4 on: June 20, 2014, 01:51:58 pm »
Prayers.
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Re: Prayers for end a Family fight
« Reply #5 on: June 20, 2014, 10:00:44 pm »
Prayers for you!
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Offline Semaira

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Re: Prayers for end a Family fight
« Reply #6 on: June 21, 2014, 04:05:07 pm »
Oh Neferu, I dealt with the exact same situation with my family. Reading your post reminded me of that.

I am definitely praying for you.
Sat Ra,
Meryt Bast, Aset-Serqet, her Heruakhety

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Re: Prayers for end a Family fight
« Reply #7 on: June 22, 2014, 04:04:23 am »
Big thank for all that prayers!
It makes me emotional.

I´m not sure, this is the right way, but the only way I can see now is to accept that my famliy is intolerant and that I have to be tolerant enough to tolerate that. But is this right?? My mum says always she is to old for change her self. But I see that as a excuse, and nothing else.

So what are you thinking about that?

P.S: I think here is a little missunderstanding: my family is not calling me a freak, but they let me feel as a freak.

Greetings and thanks a lot
Neferu
« Last Edit: June 22, 2014, 04:08:21 am by Neferu »
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Offline Arefsenu

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Re: Prayers for end a Family fight
« Reply #8 on: June 22, 2014, 05:17:15 am »
Prayers.
"Enclosed by Two"
Sat Bast her Wepwawet-Yinepu
Meryt Sekhmet-Hethert her Heru-sa-Aset

Offline terrapin46

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Re: Prayers for end a Family fight
« Reply #9 on: June 22, 2014, 07:31:58 am »
Regardless of right or wrong, I think it's unfortunate that your mother feels so strongly the need to keep up appearances, particularly in regard to the opinion of someone she married.

Good luck finding that sweet spot between living peaceably and living well!

Offline NeferuHethert

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Re: Prayers for end a Family fight
« Reply #10 on: June 26, 2014, 11:11:33 am »
Keeping you and your family in my prayers!
Rev. NeferuHethert
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Re: Prayers for end a Family fight
« Reply #11 on: June 30, 2014, 02:40:39 am »
 Well, I'm usually one for standing up for what is right, but in this case, I would just not talk about it around them . Here is also a heka to end arguing:

Leave the fight,
leave the fight like Heru left the fight.
Be far from [name]; do not approach him/her,
Or be judged like Set and Iunu.

I hope that this heka helps.
I-na aa er semeterey maat
Henek-i maat, henek-i ren
Em-ek ui em bah-ek, her di en-ek
Uas tep nu, hotepu djefau, ankh en Ra, neheh
Sam-en em maat, ankh-en em maat

Re: Prayers for end a Family fight
« Reply #12 on: June 30, 2014, 06:50:18 am »
Thats nice thank you!
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Offline Vaalea

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Re: Prayers for end a Family fight
« Reply #13 on: July 01, 2014, 10:28:34 am »
Continued prayers.
Vaalea, Shemsu em Kemet.
Sa Wepwawet-Ra her Bast, KO Sa Serqet.
Friend to Khepera and Sobek-Ra.

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Offline Semaira

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Re: Prayers for end a Family fight
« Reply #14 on: July 04, 2014, 01:04:18 pm »
Keeping you in my prayers, Neferu!
Sat Ra,
Meryt Bast, Aset-Serqet, her Heruakhety

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